Digging Deeper

You might think you know why you want what you want. But do you? I used to think “make more money” or “look better” was enough. It wasn’t. Those surface reasons didn’t keep me going when life got tough. What’s your real “why”?

Maybe you struggle to stick with goals or break habits that hold you back. Maybe you start strong but fizzle out. If that’s you, it might be because you’re not tapped into the deep, tear-jerking reason your dreams matter. The kind of “why” that hits you in the chest. You were designed for more than just going through the motions.

Finding the Core

I learned this the hard way—goals without a true “why” don’t last. At a Dean Graziosi mastermind, I was introduced to an exercise that changed everything. It’s called “Discover Your Why,” and it’s not just another worksheet. It’s a heart-wrenching, lightbulb, a moment where you realize what’s driving you. I do it for every goal, revisiting it every few months to refine my path (or make sure I’m on the right one).

Maybe you’ve chased goals that felt empty. Maybe you’re ready to find clarity. This exercise will peel back the layers to reveal the heart of your self-discovery—the purpose that fuels your midlife comeback.

Why It Matters

Knowing your deep-down “why” isn’t just motivation—it’s ammunition. It’s the fire that keeps you moving toward a life you love, not one you settle for. When I did this exercise for my finances, I ended up in tears, clutching my heart, saying, “That’s it!” It’s that powerful. It’s how I went from stuck to living a life by design, and it’s what I share through my programs.

You can find that clarity too. Your success starts with understanding what makes your goals and dreams matter. You have a purpose that’s bigger than the surface stuff.

Get the Exercise

I’m passing this “Discover Your Why” exercise to you because I believe in its power to transform. It’s simple but profound—be ready for an “OMG, I got it!” moment. Sign up for my newsletter below to get the exercise (plus an example of my financial “why”) and start your self-discovery journey.

Tip: Print it out and hang it where you’ll see it daily. Let it remind you why you’re fighting for your dreams.

Keep It Real

You’re not alone in chasing a life that means something. Share your “why” in the comments or tag me on X with #MidlifeComeback. Let’s keep it real and inspire each other to live with purpose. Join my newsletter for no-fluff health & wellness tips and catch  Sharise Uncut podcast  for real talk on living pure.

My Why example

1. What do you want to do?
I want financial freedom

2. Why is that important to you?
I want security/freedom/leave a legacy for kids

3. Why is that important to you?
I want to leave a different future for the next generations

4. Why is that important to you?
I want to change the outcome from what is expected in my family

5. Why is that important to you?
There’s too much pain in the past and I want to set our family free

6. Why is that important to you?
I want to heal my family and give them possibility

7. Why is that important to you?
I will not be my family. I must change it

Know Your Why